Wow what a few couple of days it has been. My mind wonders all the time, so much to talk about, write about and never enough time to actually sit and do all. Although sometimes it is just plain laziness.
I always get these amazing ideas to do with my kids, fun, creative, something that would definitely alleviate the fighting and incesive whining. Yet I always revert back to the yelling, screaming, putting on movies and some interaction because I am just too damn tired to get the energy to be creative.
So to kill this slag, lack of energy and negative responses I have been in search of a template schedule to create for myself and my kids to make sure that there are many good and positive structure in the house. Even that sometimes is Ugggg. But I will conquer these blahs I have and make it all the more better for me and my kidlets.
That is one of my big things to do.
Hayden just received his report card yesterday...sigh! I feel for the poor guy, his first grade one report card and most of it is C and D's. Mostly due to him lacking confidence in himself to be able to complete his tasks and learn how to read. I practise with him every day and notice as I watch his lips to form the word then he suddenly shakes his head in doubt thinking that his response is wrong. I get so excited for him and express it when I see him go to say it correctly then he backs away and thinks again it is incorrect. I wish I could break this cycle for him. But he himself needs to understand he is smart, no matter how many times I say it...it is within him he feels less competent.
This is why I NEED to create a schedule and follow it, to be able to fit in time for him while the others are occupied, so he can focus and get the attention he needs to excel in his work. That is hard to do in a small apartment with 4 extremely active children!
It is funny how when your child fails, you feel like a failure. Because as I see it, I am his teacher of life, skills, creativity and all those other wonderful things and want nothing more then to see my children strive and excel in life. All of them do in so many ways....just hate to see them struggle!
Being a stay at home mom is beautiful and soo rewarding but so damn hard at the same time....lol. It is very easy to get into a slump, lack routine.
I am definitely not my mother. When I speak with her and about staying home she talks about not going to bed till 1am because she had to make sure the house was clean and ready for the next day. I am SOOOO not like that. My house is CLEAN but my kitchen still sits in disaster with dishes from last nights supper not done. Why Because I HATE cleaning the kitchen. Ask me to do anything else but that. I am always baking and cleaning as I go but by the end of the night after washing dishes all day long. Like hell I want to do the last bit of supper crap.
And you know the funny part, there is nothing that erks me more then waking up to a dirty kitchen. It totally sets my day in a bad direction. Working around clutter, having to wash bowls for cereal....uggg. John has been pretty good lately about cleaning the dishes so I guess I have come to expect him to finish them up. Guess what he didn't do them last night. So we are two people who don't really run on ROUTINE all the time. This is pain and a stumble we must over come. I do run on routine for the most part. But I never know if today I am going to get dressed or just stay in my jammies and go about my day. ROUTINE...it sucks but it doesn't at the same time.
So if any one has a sample of a schedule they do while daycaring or being a SAHM and feel like they would like to share. I would love to see it.
And so the day now begins as I go and try to finish the kitchen and have full intentions of playing and being creative with my kids. Daddy's birthday is in 2 days and Hayden has a project due on February 14th. Let's do it now so he does not become a procrastinator like his mother and father.,...lol
I know for myself and while I was taking care of the kids for them as well that I need structure as well. If I have 4 times of day structured then the rest can flow.
ReplyDeleteI have srtong morning rutine about getting out the door. Everything must be preped the night before. I am not morning people. Before I go to bed the clothing is layed out, lunches packed, and breakfast planned. (my trick is while dinner is cooking to get lunch and breakfast planned)
After that nothing too structured until the afternoon exaustion time in my cycle. The morning might hold crafts, outtings, playing. Usually having the TV off makes my mornings better. Then when I get pooped in the middle of the afternoon there is tea and a show. When I was with the kids I would often premake most of supper in the morning so that when I have the least ammount of energy I can not worry about feeding hungry kiddlets. In the afternoon a walk to the school bus and some time out side.
Dinner we always did about 4-5 so that there was no afterschool snack just dinner. Then after dinner homework. I would often have a child on either side of me at the table each working on their homework while I helped where nessary. With the mix of some non school and some school perhpas making a craft for "homework" time for the other kids would help.
Then time to spend enjoying my people and having computer time. Once everything is ready for the next day, then I can sit and enjoy chatting and playing and having fun.
I don't know if any of this helps.....
Find you weakest points of the day. The moments when it usually goes to pot and figure out a rutine for those moments. 14 days to make a habbit and 14 days to break one. It will suck the first while but after that it will be second nature and the rest will be more fun because of it.